Hello, third quater of 2017! Just like that, 2017 is almost over. I really wasn’t readyy.
For me, this year has been packed with lessons: Nothing spectacular if I’m being honest but these are everyday things that somehow became very glaring to me during the course of the year. One thing is for sure, I have come to learn many things and above all ‘trust my process’ this year.
In today’s post, I would be sharing a number of lessons that I have picked up this year. Enjoy.
1. Find your tribe
Having that person or people that don’t have a choice but to love and support you is really nice (lol). Seriously speaking, it doesn’t have to be your biological family it could be friends or a community of people that you know would always be there for you irrespective of circumstances. The point is: Find your tribe and hold them close.
While it is important to hold your tribe close, also remember not to force relationships. The end of a friendship is not necessarily a bad thing – we need to recognise that people come into our lives for different reasons and be willing to let them go when the time is right.
2. Love is more than a feeling; it’s a choice
Now, you know this thing they call ‘love’, it is not a feeling. I mean, really really. We all say it but have we truly thought about it? Feelings truly come and go – most of us have come to learn and experience this for a fact.
You know this ‘over the moon’ feeling that you feel for that guy or lady in your life? Believe me, it can pass away in seconds like it never happened. This is a rather scary thought and it really reinforces the fact that it is necessary to develop other aspects of our relationships.
3. Enjoy the moment
You know how most times we are either thinking of how things could have gone in the past or looking forward to something in particular in the future? Have you noticed that most times we don’t live in the present – I mean soak up the present. Few years ago, I realised that I couldn’t really remember how I spent a certain period of my life. Now this wasn’t because it wasn’t worth remembering but because I was very engrossed in how things were going to work out and thinking of how I could have done things differently.
No matter what you’re going through, look at the bright side and appreciate the little things – no matter how trivial they may seem to you.
Live. This is life, we’re living it already. This is no rehearsal.
Oh yea, that thing about “stooping to conquer’, turns out to be true. A point comes when you may have to bow your head to raise it higher at a much later time. This might mean taking a lower paying job or being involved in activities that you might consider as being beneath your pedigree, class or whatever.
If it’s going to help you in the future, chance are that it’s worth going through it no matter how gruelling the experience is.
5. Eyes on the Prize
I learnt to trust my process and fix my eyes on my own lane. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong in getting inspiration from people however, we have to realise that we each have our different timings and seasons. A delay in getting that job may just be an opportunity for you to develop certain skills or knowledge that you need in the workplace. Who knows, it may even be that push for you to discover your entrepreneurial or creative side.
6. Let go of Prejudice
‘X people are this way’, ‘Y people are that way’. Believe me fam, stuff like that just closes your mind to fully experiencing life and people. Let go of pre-conceived notions and just let it flow. In my opinion, we’ll always find what we look out for…if you think that a person would be a certain way because of their race, tribe, religious affiliations etc., chances are that you would find those traits in them. Not because they are that way, but because you have already set out to find those things in them.
I hope this was a good read….till the next post. Kisses!
Peace. Joy. Love