I’m not gonna lie, I have been thinking of love and marriage and what they entail. In my research I found a number of thought and insight into the matter. Growing up, love was romanticised using fairy tales: you meet Prince Charming and you ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after. If only it was so easy.
Growing up, I have come to realise that it is a very deep concept – much deeper that most realise so I find myself asking these questions:
- What, really, is love?
- Does it exist or is it oxytocin?
- How is it that people who are in love today ‘fall out’ of it?
- Is it possible to remain in love?
- Is love enough basis to marry a person?
- Is love enough to sustain a marriage?
- Does love truly conquer all?
I wouldn’t say that I have found the answers to these questions but I can say that my sojourn into these areas exposed me to various viewpoints that has been really helpful. An example of which is the story which I would share, my hope is that it sheds more light into issue and helps in your choice of partners.
A student asks a teacher, “What is Love?” The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to the corn field, choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: You can go through them only once and not turn back to pick.”
The student headed for the field, and went through the first row. He saw one big corn, but he wondered.. may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one.. but wondered if there may be an even bigger one waiting for him.
Afterwards, when he had completed more than half of the corn field, he started to realize that the corn growing around the area were not as big as the previous one he saw. He knew he missed the biggest one, and he regretted it. So, he went back to his teacher empty handed.
The teacher told him, “This is Love.. you keep looking for a better one, but you only realize it when you have already missed the person..”
“What is Marriage then?” the student asked.
The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go back to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went back to the corn field, and this time he was careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked a corn that he felt satisfied with, and came back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, “When picking the corn this time.. you looked for one that is just nice, that you had faith in and are satisfied with…. this is Marriage.”
Upon reading this story, I wondered how many people were lucky or fortunate enough to pick a somewhat satisfactory corn that also happens to be the biggest in the corn field? Let’s assume we happen to pick the biggest and juiciest corn in the field, how many of us keep thinking of the bigger ones that we saw earlier on in our search or others that we did not get to check. The story reminds me of someone who had a pretty big corn but kept wondering if she was missing out on a bigger one…if only she had read this story.
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Peace. Love. Joy